Say No Now, to prevent the oooh nooo!!!" moment

Say No Now, to prevent the oooh nooo!!!" moment

Originally uploaded by ucumari

Slowly learning to say no... in a series of girl-guy stuffs happening in these two weeks.
I "blamed" to the dancing practice, and was told that it is the tests from above.
slowly learning... lol...


Say "No" now, so there won't be a situation of "OOOOOOH NOOOOOOOO!" later.
lol

Here are the series happening in these two weeks. (don't read this block, for self reflection is always a waste of time)
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1.
Random Houseless Guy A: hei you look pretty.
The Gal: oh thanks. (naive, i was really willing to listen to someone appreciate my prettiness)
Random Houseless Guy A: can i have your number?
The Gal: okay. (naive, agai)
(ennnn...scared to answer the phone now)

2.
Random Guy B: Hei, just want you to know that you are lucky.
The Gal: Oh, why? ( very protective)
Random Guy B: You are pretty.
The Gal: Oh, thanks. It's the gift from God. (very happy)
Random Guy B: Can i give you my number?
The Gal: no, I am sure won't call you. but you are welcometomychurchonsundayatxxx. (protective)
Random Guy B: en, okay.
(thinking about how to report to her brahs & sistahs to "fix" the guy, while forgetting actually she was the one needs to be fixed: " just say no directly!)"

3
Random Guy C: Hei, you are very beautiful
The Gal: Thanks! (victorious smile)
Random Guy C: Do you wanna hang out sometime?
The Gal: No thanks. I don't do that. Nice meeting you and hope you have a good day. I am running for a meeting. May God bless you in the rest of your day.
(running away. Learned)

-----------------whew, time to be serious. the rest blocks will be useful----------------

As it mentioned above, those must be the tests from above. Should have known how to control the tongue! ~~^_^oOV
Slow learner needs some wisdom from above......


Thus, not only the guy-girl thing, but also the daily life, the friendship, the work and the research.
"No" is very necessary, to protect yourself from distracting, to keep a good pace, and to be focus with higher efficiency.

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So, how do we say this nasty "no", if it is really a rude thing to do?
I found the steps below has been very useful for myself:
=D

OH NO!!!!!!!!!
Originally uploaded by cooperis

1. gently appreciate whatever the situation comes in front of you. Appreciate it loudly and respectfully.
2. Find a common ground, to make a benefit for each other.
4. Decline, respectfully & politely, in a determined way.
5. Keep confident about the decision you made.
6. Don't feel bad or guilty. Pray for the "no" situation.
7. Focus on the "yes" you have been making.

Good luck with practicing this "no" game.
For we don't want to say that "OOOOOOH, NOOOOOOOOO!!!" at the end~~
lol
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